Dear Mom,
It’s New Years Eve of on the year you left me and I am not sure how to feel. I can’t believe you are gone, dead, away from me? I have thought about your passing today and when I said the word “dead” in my thoughts I felt, what a horrible word. It sounds so final, so harsh. I am sure you hate it too and prefer words like passing on. Me too, because it makes me feel as if it isn’t official and we will see each other once again.
I also realized a very depressing fact this afternoon that in the year that I brought our little girl into the world, Grandpa passed away, and now in this year of my son, I had to lose you. It feels that always in my life with something good, something bad also has to pass. I wish sometimes I could have it all. I know that is selfish and unreasonable, and I am so very blessed, but I just miss you so much.
Time has gone very quickly this year, and I am proud of myself for trudging through, even though, the loss of you was sometimes unbearable for me. I miss you terribly. Sometimes I still find myself questioning if it is real, or if I can just pick up the phone and call you and you will answer. I wish for that all the time.
I watched a show the other day where a woman was suffering from cancer. It wasn’t real but in the show she had made a video for her children just in case. I cried many times during the show, but the words she said in the video made me feel as if you were talking to me. She said, “I may not be where you can see me at all time, but I am always with you. I am so lucky to be your mom.” I know you felt this way and that you are with me, it just isn’t how I want it to be.
I miss you mom. I wish 2012 would not have been so hard. I wish you were still here. Trying to be positive, as I know you would want me to do, I hope 2013 brings more joy and blessings to our family. Although I realize, nothing can be better than the blessing of my little boy. I wish I were drinking a glass of wine with you. I miss you! I love you!
Love,
Me